Recently I commented on someone’s blog that I didn’t know what “3-4 hours to myself” was–meaning, I don’t usually get time on the weekends to do something fun or restful by myself. (Though that did happen last weekend, after I had a very sleepless night and Papa took the kids out for the afternoon the next day, bless him.)
Then I realized, I have that every day, Monday to Friday, because I work from home. Papa takes the kids to daycare at 8:45, and I am alone at least until I meet him for lunch, if not 3:00 when I pick the kids up. Just me, the computer, and the cats snoring on the bed behind me.
But that’s a different mental space than free weekend time. During the week, I’m constantly thinking: the work in front of me, finding new work, getting paid for old work, whether I should stop reading blogs and get to work, how am I ever going to get the dishes done with all this work to do, etc. It’s not really very restful or rejuvenating, as much as I love the work itself.
Then I imagine homeschooling the kids, as I read a lot of homeschoolers’ blogs and have considered it for our family. It’s not that I look on my kids as a burden, but I treasure the “adult” time when I’m working, and the peace and quiet of each day, barring birdsong and cat snores. Financial considerations aside, I wonder how I would work out time for myself if I were homeschooling, especially now that my kids are moving away from needing such long naps.
There are plenty of parents out there who love to be with their kids all day, and can find ways to weave in educating their children with keeping their homes and even a little paying work on the side. I have a hard time imagining that for myself–I imagine getting very cranky being with my kids 24/7. Maybe that makes me selfish and immature, I don’t know.
How is that for you homeschooling parents? Do you feel the need for time alone? If so, how do you get it?